Let’s think… Yes, I mean think a little deeply… deeper than what we do? Let us try to understand a man (or a woman; I don’t want to sound gender biased here!). So like we always do, let us divide ourselves into four different levels that we live in. They are:
Today we will talk about the emotional part; the 3rd level of our being. Given the kind of culture we have been brought up in and the kind of lifestyle we get used to, we spend a lot of time on the mental and physical level.
I am keeping this post very simple. The purpose of this post is to give you a simple tip to shift your emotions from the normal undisciplined and wayward mode to the more purposeful and disciplined mode. The effects of doing what we are going to do are:
We will have a lot of control over our emotions.
We will be the chariot rider for our emotions and not the horses being driven by it.
It will give us a subtle sense of understanding about who we are once we practice this exercise for about 15-30 days.
Does this mean we will have to do something out of the ordinary or take a few hours out of our hectic schedules? No, you do not have to because that kind of plan is hard to execute and any plan which is difficult to execute is a bad plan, isn’t it?
So, what’s the plan?
If you can take out about 5-15 minutes in morning and same in the evening this can give us a good start. Is it “doable”? If, it is; let’s begin then.
What would you do in just 5-15 minutes? You can do wonders! You can start a process which we have long forgotten. And this process, if you start enjoying; trust me, you will love not to miss any day. How powerful it is? Well, I will only say, feel it to believe it.
What’s the science behind it?
Emotions are more powerful than logic. To support this, I would like to quote none other than Dale Carnegie, the author of the book – “How To Win friends and Influence People”. He said:
“When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.”
One of these people he was referring to is “You” and “I”; of course. Emotional intelligence – needless to say – has become a force to reckon with in the last decade or so. Even spirituality recognizes emotions and all the subtle forces more powerful than the logical mind.
How will this 5-15 min help?
Depending on what kind of person you are – if you can meditate do that just to calm down your mind – or if you can close your eyes and in the darkness find out amongst the thousands of things making your mind go haywire which are the thoughts you will chose to think about, what work you are going to do, what are the most important things for you to focus on which can take you to where you want to be.
“Where focus goes, energy flows” – Tony Robbins
The purpose is to have a small conversation, a beautiful conversation with the most important person in your life. The purpose is to give that person a fixed time, so that he/she feels being cared for and being looked after. Put your points to that person, say that you will think this and focus on “A” because this is what you want to become, want to have or want to contribute. If you just shower this bit of care and value to the person hiding inside you, you can go places. Because wherever you go, he will never leave you and hence this relationship with this person is the most important relationship you need to start building.
In this small time, you would have shifted the focus of your mind to the most valuable things of your life and hence can create a strong shift in your emotions. When you get out of this small session – you will know your priorities crystal clear. Stephen Covey said it so well, “Effective leadership is putting first things first. Effective management is discipline, carrying it out.”
One of the most important habits that self-made millionaires focus on is the habit of ‘excelling in their priorities’. Too many people are working hard. You need to work hard but on the most vital areas of your life and this small time you will spend with yourself will help you achieve this.
Why morning and evening?
Emotions have a strange way of working as compared to mind. Untrained, they take you on a topsy-turvy round. Anyone who had a bad start to the day would know that it is not only the bad start that kills but it is what follows a bad start that is more dangerous. A bad start somehow attracts similar experiences throughout the day. A good session in morning will keep the momentum all along the day. At night, it works because when you come in agreement with what is important and what is not; you transfer the priorities to the subconscious and let it work all night on it. Next morning, you get up with the first thoughts of your truly valuable priorities and a sense of amazing clarity. You feel happy and your mind has something to work on, not just something but something that is really vital for you.
Remember – Mind is a good servant but a bad master
Close your eyes and ask yourself the following:
Is there anyone who really cared for me but I have let them down?
Whatever comes to your mind or whosoever you can see when you ask this question is someone who you should give back a lot of love to. Do not think that it is not possible. If you cannot do anything directly, you still have a choice, you can still pray for them.
You would hardly have a few people who will come to your mind.
Dedicate some time of the day to ask God for guidance and pray for them.
When we do not do this, somewhere within something keeps troubling us & you cannot ignore this. Something we constantly try to run away from.
Real success is leading a meaningful life and taking complete responsibility for people who really cared for you, whether they are with you or not. Remember you always have a choice. You might have failed once but that does not mean you cannot try to undo what you have done by doing something good for people who cared for you.
Affirmation – I am a spiritual being having a physical experience.
Wish you luck…
Whatever you have planned to do today, would you love to do that if today is going to be the last day of your life? Hmmm…. got you thinking, isn’t it.
Try to ponder over these:
Who would you like to talk to if this was the last day of your life?
Who would you like to see if this was the last day of your life?
Who would you like to spend your time with if this was the last day of your life?
Who would you like to apologize to if today is the last day of your life?
Who is/are the one/people you would be grateful to for the life you have if this life ends here and now?
How would you like to live the day if this was the last day of your life?
Who or what you will be thinking about if this was the last day of your life?
Some of the things that you have to say for the above mentioned questions may not be possible to implement today. But what it will definitely do is that it will shift the focus to the right things that you know means a world to you. This is needed for all of us because most of us keep doing all those things in life which is really not that meaningful for us. Sometimes we just keep ourselves busy day-in day-out so that we can run away from the reality just because it is difficult. What we do not realize is that you cannot run away from your true self. Your heart is closer to your being than your mind. Do not ignore what really matters to you. Make your life more meaningful.
When you think of the last moments of life; all the events of life converges to the present moment – NOW.
Do you think you need to change your priorities? Do you think you have ignored some people who you should not have? Do you think that you have not done something that you really wanted to contribute? Do you think you have not met someone who you should have met or spoken to in a long time.
Are you sure that you have a tomorrow or these people/things that you are ignoring have a tomorrow?
After you read this, may be you will take a brush and paper and start painting or you may go to someone you love and give a kiss to him/her and surprise them, or just hold their hand tight. Or you may pick up the phone and give a call to someone who matters a lot but you have not spoken to them for long time. I don’t know what you WILL do. But you will definitely know what you SHOULD be doing. You will know what you and your life is all about. Knowing what you are and what you want is always better than not knowing. As Paulo Coelho puts it in his words, “Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worse kind of suffering.”
Whether you will be able to do what you want to do is not what is important but what is important is do you really know what you should be doing. If you do, may be, if not now, sometime in future you will be able to do.
Wish you luck…
Words are ideas. Words are the forms that our thoughts take. Words come after thoughts. They reflect the way we think.
If you alter the words, you can alter the way you think and similarly if you alter the thoughts, you can alter the words that you use.
What is scary in life today is that it has become quite an acceptable practice for all to use bad/foul language, in fact it is in fashion. Language becomes experience. Remember that.
Change your vocabulary, do not stop using some words instead replace them with positive words, powerful words, words that make you feel the way you want to feel and the way you want others to feel. This does wonders within a few days or in one or one & half week’s time. Words do take you closer to what you want to be and what you want to be seen as. But before you replace words with new one’s make sure you are choosing words that reflects your personality that you want to acquire.
Words has the power to take you closer to your goals.
Now read the quote below carefully; may be, there is something very powerful hidden in it. One of the greatest obstacles that we have in life is the idea that we know and understand what we read. Full cups, you see. With this thought read the quote below. Empty your cups and read the quote below:
“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God“.
Do not lose those in life who really care for you. Success and wealth that you will gather will not mean anything if you do not have the most important people around you.
All those who are extremely successful somehow seem to maintain healthy personal relationship.
Make sure you do not stand alone when you reach the top.
Wishing you luck