If you want to be lead a life like a true champion, you will have to be absolutely sure of your values. Let me ask you this? Where did you get your values from? Most of us do not consciously choose our values. We borrow it from people who we spend time with. It is your family, teachers and a lot of others we spend a lot of time with during the early days. However, once something becomes your values it starts guiding your life like the sail of a ship. Do you know – All the decisions that you take are guided by your values.
What are values?
Values, in simple words are what we consider as valuable or important. It could be ideas, principles, things (e.g. money) etc.
Let us say you want to change your job. How does your value affect this decision? If you consider money as your topmost value or most valuable thing at that time, then you may leave the old organization for the new without much hassle. However, what if relationship is most important for you; in this case relationship with your manager or your boss? Will it not create a kind of catch-22 situation for you? Consider this, you are from an extremely rich family and work for fun and spend quality time with friends and colleagues. Would you value money as much as someone who works to make ends meet? Now situation has changed and for this person who may not need money as much as the other person taking decision will not be as difficult. He will let go of the other job as he does not value money as much as the other.
However, as we all know values guide our lives but are not consciously picked by us. And here lies the problem. They are a result of unconscious choices which we made. It is therefore very important for everyone who wants to lead a more aware and matured life to question their values before life throws a question at them.
- Sit down and write your top 5 values
- Figure out where did you pick it from? – (was it from an optimist or from a loser)
- Where these values could possibly be taking you?
- Question your values. Try and find out why should you or why should you not have some values in your list – This will make you crystal clear about questions that life could possibly be throwing at you if not now, may be later.
It is great to be a man of clarity than to be a muddle head. As a leader (and anyone who leads his life is a leader rest are stumbling from one day to another) you are expected to be a man of clarity of vision, values and only then you deliver whole-hearted action. As you all know actions create your destiny.
Sit down and do the exercise above. You could be doing that man a great service who looks at you for everything, the man who could not live without your support, the man who is the center of your universe. I am sure you know who that man is – yes it is YOU.